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You Can Survive Even the Most Painful Feelings

It is normal to believe that we would not be able to survive a traumatic life event such as the death of our child, our spouse being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, or any number of other tragic and traumatic life events. However, once we develop…
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Video: Take the Risk of Diving Into Your Fears or Pain

I have often talked about suffering less by accepting and being fully present with pain or other symptoms. But, this seems counterintuitive and risky. A common question is: When I’m really afraid or in a lot of pain, why would I want to experience…
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Acceptance of Feelings Creates Self-Acceptance

When we learn how to practice coming home to the body, especially when feeling overwhelmed by too much to do, traumatic life events, or by strong emotions, we develop loving self-care, self-compassion, self-empowerment, self-efficacy, self-valuing,…
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Video: You Are What You Practice

We are all masters of practice in that we are practicing something in every moment. We commonly practice unhealthy behaviors and behaviors that are not aligned with our personal life values. If we go around all day being self-critical, we will…
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Video: Meaning and Purpose to Your Life

The terms meaning and purpose often appear together, and I would frame their relationship this way: when we act with purpose, we take actions that are important enough to lend meaning to our lives. Meaningful actions are always in accord with…
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Video: Ships Are Safe In The Harbor But They Are Built To Sail The World

Many of us hold ourselves back from doing things that would enhance our lives because we’re afraid of embarrassment, shame, or failure. On the other hand, some people, especially those with bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder,…
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Video: The Importance of Being Open and Vulnerable

We are a lot like lobsters. Lobsters have a hard exoskeleton, which they must shed several times in order to grow into a mature lobster. Because of the hard shell, the only way for the lobster to grow up is to shed its exoskeleton each time…
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Video: The Importance of Setting Goals

Dr. Carl Simonton, under whom I trained at the Simonton Cancer Center, always impressed upon participants at his center’s cancer retreats that energy is essential to healing and that the act of pursuing goals is itself energizing. Setting…
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Video: Living By Your Values and Goals

Many people go through life blaming others for their own failings. Coach John Wooden of UCLA taught his basketball players to take responsibility and work hard to change any dysfunctional behavior or any behavior that was getting in the way…