It is important to identify your personal values and goals. Once you have spent quality time identifying what values and goals matter to you most, the next step is the following mindfulness practice: Throughout the day, form a habit of asking yourself if your behavior—your actions—are in harmony with your self-identified values and goals. Each time you notice that you are doing something that is not aligned with how you really want to live your life, step up and courageously do what would be more aligned with what you most value. With your personal values clearly identified, you will then be able to consciously choose not to engage in behaviors that interfere with your health and happiness.
The reason I refer to this process as courageous is because it will seem very uncomfortable at first to choose to do something different or respond to certain stimuli in a way that is unfamiliar to you.
The reason I refer to it as a mindfulness practice is because just the process of going through your day observing your own behavior requires an enormous commitment to practice a very high level of awareness.
As you practice identifying your values, observing yourself, and choosing each action your take, you may find yourself becoming self-critical. It is important to be gentle and kind to yourself. Practice self-forgiveness for all your mistakes. Try to do the right thing, but don’t put yourself down when you do the wrong thing.